Our Lady Star of the Sea | St Bernard of Clairvaux | St Saviour
Marriage
‘The Sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life.’ (CCC 1661)
The sacredness of marriage: Marriage is not merely a human agreement between two consenting individuals; it is a relationship – a covenant – before and under God (Genesis 2:22). Marriage is the most intimate of all human relationships, uniting a man and a woman in a ‘one-flesh’ union (Genesis 2:23–25). Marriage involves ‘leaving’ your family and ‘being united’ to your spouse. It makes two into a union of one in an unconditional, selfless and life-giving love. Marriage is a relationship of free self-giving of a man and a woman to one another (Ephesians 5:25–30). The husband and wife are to be first and foremost concerned about the wellbeing of the other person and to be committed to each other in steadfast love and devotion. This involves the need for forgiveness.
The exclusiveness of marriage: Marriage is not only permanent, sacred, intimate, and mutual; it is also exclusive (Genesis 2:22–25; 1 Corinthians 7:2–5). This means that no other human relationship must interfere with the marriage commitment between husband and wife.
Marriage Preparation
Steps for Marriage in Our Lady Star of the Sea
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Attend Mass regularly.
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Complete the online enquiry form.
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You must be free to marry. Those in irregular marital situations (for example, civil divorce) should approach the clergy of the parish in the first instance for advice.
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The diocesan policy on marriage states that at least six months’ notice of marriage is normal. This is to ensure paperwork and preparation can both be completed in good time.
Wedding Planning Guide
Preparing for your wedding liturgy is a vital part of your journey toward the Sacrament of Matrimony. At Our Lady Star of the Sea, we provide a structured guide covering the ceremony schedule, liturgical planning with selected readings and music, and essential parish policies regarding decor, photography, and documentation. We are committed to helping you ensure that your celebration is as prayerful and beautiful as the lifelong covenant you are making together.